Dear Mahoghany,
I have been with my boyfriend for a little while now, and he has been really acting distant lately.
He always walks away while I'm talking to him, and he is forever on his phone. He never wants to be around me.
When I talk to our mutual friends, I hear from them that he is telling them that I'm clingy and promiscuous.
They are also telling me that he says his feelings are going down for me.
I hate to believe hearsay, but I can never get him to stay and talk to me.
I KNOW that I am not like how he is describing me to other people and I hate the fact that I might lose him.
How can I get him to talk to me?
Should I break up with him?
Or should I let the chips fall where they may?
Thanks so much in advance,
-Extremely Distressed
Dear Extremely Distressed,
This is a really sticky situation for you.
I would say that your best bet would be to give him his space.
You are his girlfriend, and if you are under him 24/8, he's gonna feel like you are smothering the life out of him.
A relationship is wonderful, but the line is really thin between a relationship and monotony.
So take a week off from your boyfriend.
I'M NOT SAYING TAKE A BREAK!!!!
Never take breaks! They are the death of a relationship!!! Don't Do It!!!That's still your man, but you can't really be around him for a little bit.
It's like personal leave with pay!!!!
Who doesn't love that?
Take this time of learn more about you and what you can handle .
I did this once and realized I hate the taste of diced tomatoes!!!!
Who knows?
You might learn something new about yourself....
Hope it all works out,
Mahoghany